"I had a family solicitor to represent me in court but I needed to informally talk through the process and get to a place that I was happy first. I believe this helped me get a reasonably fair deal. My ex decided to represent himself and not talk to anyone before hand – although I had offered him Divorce Coaching’s number.
I was prepared, having got the figures down on paper before hand, Becca told me not to under estimate my value and my worth having followed him around the world all our married life. I had only worked part-time, his choice but we had been married a long time, I was the home maker and child carer, I knew this would be thrown back at me when we got to that stage so I worked with DC to have a clear vision of what I wanted. On the day we went to court it felt like Becca was sat on my shoulders to support me."
"Following my divorce I saw Becca to help re-evaluate my life, this was my chance to make lots of changes. Although she talked me through the ‘not rushing in to the pink hair or the sports car’ she allowed me to talk through my aspirations and what I would like to do next. Some were outlandish but she listened, whilst my family all thought I was crazy and discouraged me. My sessions reminded me to be me and my current situation was not my fault, she assured me that I would feel better, she’d been through it herself with her daughter and they are both now happy and content. Yes I accepted some responsibility but being a single mum (we co-parent thanks to Becca helping me reach that decision) was a much better option that being unhappy."
Joanne happily living a new life in Devon
"You can’t prepare yourself for divorce whether you are instigating it or not. It’s tragic on many levels but working out what to do next is the hardest part. I’m not usually a talker but Rebecca helped me focus on my reasons for walking away from my life with my husband and helped take away the guilt.
I was low in confidence and had no idea if I would cope alone. I had a good job so I knew financially I could stand on my own feet, but there were other areas that needed to be divided.
We talked through where I would go, how I would tell my family, Rebecca gave me the courage to go home and talk through those areas and come to a decision between us before we even started the legal process. It certainly saved us money and I’d imagine a lot of shouting at each other across a big boardroom table like you see in the movies!
By the time we got to the legal bit we were actually on talking terms and although the saddest experience of my life so far, I was in a much better frame of mind once that paperwork came through my letter box. Rebecca reminded me that it was the start of a new chapter."